For Students explain (k)

 For Students explain (k)
Shu-Fen Yang
We then look to the next, and the second eighteen:
【people short. To refrain from exposing. People have private. To refrain from that.】
get along here spoke short remote Among see each other not with each other to see each other's shortcomings, it is often the thing. We see other people have flaws, there are weaknesses, l r. to refrain from exposing this cut He has faults, which is also the most reluctant people with weaknesses known. So when we know each other shortcomings, we do not like the mouthpiece, full of people to talk to these weaknesses, is no good. you speak to others at the same time Remember also, others will tell you; How do you say, people want to treat your tooth for a tooth. So here to tell us that people should have the mind, tolerant of others. see other people have weaknesses, problems are detected, not to preach This is a very good thing can be said to be quite immoral.
l have private and must not say r. The kinds of pain, we know, and confidentiality should be for him, not to talk, spoke after his injury will be deeper. In addition to this Privacy addition, there are some things that should not let the parties know, and we should not go narrated.
in terms of an example, he once said of a friend, he said, a doctor, he saw the patient has a serious illness can be said that in a few days, life has come to an end. So, he told The patient said: You can go back. the patient of his age is not small, when the doctor told the old man said: the old man, you can go home, you do not have the hospital since then. His meaning is to say: you died After, you will not ever come to the hospital. The old man on his way back home. because the doctor's words to the patient with great confidence, he said, never used to see a doctor, and no longer hospital, so he was very happy.
after a year or two later, the patient felt like, and he wants to come back after a referral to see a couple of years. The doctor saw the old man to a very The surprise, said: Uncle, how do you go again? the old man to say: I see you, because you used to say I've been OK, you can go home. go home, I was very happy, for their very confidence, and thus slowly nursed back to health. After two years, he thought the hospital should come back to see how their physical condition. the doctor to tell all the students of Medicine, said doctors of the word, often the patient hope in life. because he does not tell the patient the truth, so the patient does not know how serious her illness. It can be seen, many patients are scared to death because of mental mischief, not he really died. So When people have privacy, should not let him know, we are also putting his secret. This is a story.
once had a friend he became a doctor, he also talked about a story like this. he would speak ill B two people suffering from the medical records of the medical consultation to open the wrong one, a gastritis, B is the stomach, two to the wrong list, the results of real people he gastritis into gastric cancer, gastric cancer who really is not cancer, he saw himself was only a little inflammation of the stomach only, the results of the different fate of two people, one alive and well, one quickly died out.
So here we have the privacy of other people should not let him know, or We know that should not be preaching for him, this will cause great harm to others. during the first condition I mentioned, we also pay attention to the patient not accept such a blow, the fact that we are putting his concealed, Do not let him know.
chat among friends and family have also heard such a story. there was a man, his father with lung cancer, they do not want to let my father know that he got cancer. Therefore, diagnosis by a doctor open to their time, the family opened a conference on that should give his father had a very quiet very happy old age, do not want to toss him inside the hospital. So put this can be painted out the white, into inflammation, inflammation of the inflammation, go photocopying, Take a look at his father: Dad, you are usually pneumonia, we can convalesce at home, eat medicine can play an injection.
After several years, two or three years, and her father is really very happy. the children know that my father's illness is quite serious, but would not let his father in the hospitals do a lot of chemical treatment, or the pain of this test, they do not want. father In two or three of them have been very happy. One year the Chinese New Year, he went to the doctor to see himself as in good spirits. The doctor told him, you have a terminal cancer. the result was too late, because the family did not accompany him , after the father know,bailey UGG boots, and I feel greatly affected and, after a few months left.
So, when we understand this, we know that when there is some privacy, can not let each other know that we definitely putting his confidence Do not let him know is to protect him. In particular, the condition, our parents, our friends and relatives know them if there are such people, he could not accept the fact that blow, we will certainly putting his hidden, do not let him know. see other people, or hear a painful secret, privacy, we should not talk to other people preach, which is very undesirable, it is loss Judging thing.
this one is also very important. We all know that among people, good friends among the friends we saw at fault, we His two sentences will be advised of course; between husband and wife,Bailey UGG boots, we see each other at fault, or did his wife's inevitable that we will do, Mr. persuade him; that children have the wrong place, parents would certainly have to teach him . this one to tell us, l good persuade r, the people can not accept other people's advice? There are two reasons, we can not know. The first, to persuade the people, his attitude, his voice was strong, as if accused of saying: you can not do, you are wrong, not attitude harmony. The second is that the other party so severely that he accept your attitude, not a good tone, he can not service you, like you say he thinks me, I chose not to change. So here say be skillful means.
we think about loved ones with our most recent, if not the parents that their children, or else is the husband and wife recently. why fight? quarrel reason is nothing more than listening to a very bad tone After listening to very uncomfortable. Why be uncomfortable? is accused of negligence at the time of each other, often very bad attitude tone, so the other can not stand, so two people would fight. here is that between people, If the rules had persuading the time to know how skillful means, to catch the right time. if you do not grasp this opportunity to grasp this time is not good, so he was very embarrassed, so he felt very embarrassed, it will damage to his self-esteem.
each of us is stress their self-esteem, are very particular about their outward appearances. so be sure to remember that when we exhort others, must be noted that he received the degree of each other how much must be measured, and then do everything in our power to help him to persuade him. Meanwhile, a man of thought, if there is good faith to persuade others, we say Your voice, your attitude must be very devout, touching each other will certainly be able to detect, said: I do indeed blame appreciate your exhortation. If we use the strength of an authoritarian attitude to exhort others, but sometimes no way to achieve the purpose of persuasion, but also end the vendetta, but bitter to you. you are so fierce, his face did not give him embarrassing scene.
we read this one, glad to see others have not negligence to quickly talk to the others, we must know how skillful means. In particular, between husband and wife, husband and wife the two of dialogue, children are often home to learn from. you can politely mutual respect, children in his speech, his tone is also Parents will follow the same whisper. If the parents fault between each other is very harsh to accuse each other of such words is not right.
So here, you can The German is in the nature of our own morality, that every person has the virtue, certainly good deeds can have a turn over of this instinct, this virtue. because of the environmental impact of our day after tomorrow, so we had all the virtues, no way to play. So here it tells us, between people, when we see others at fault, really good friends, and relatives should talk about, and this time we must not do not speak, we can not nothing about them, step by step to see him fall. If you refused to help, you do not want advice, here to tell you there is no way to establish your virtue.
can set a good moral. Historically, we have already mentioned with the Emperor Wei Zheng, the emperor like this, an open mind, to accept the proposed rules through his Secretary of State can be said quite rare. you can for the emperor so, we consider the status of our identity today, is not so generous that they should learn, so much the mind. We are trying to persuade others, in advising people of the time, we also have to think about what kind of language, What the attitude; if you can metaphor, a way with metaphor, often have the effect higher.